If you're like many moms, you're already singing the back-to-school blues. The rejuvenating summer break is almost over, and right around the corner lurk nightly homework struggles, head-spinning carpool schedules, and soul-draining shopping sprees. Once the school year gets underway it's not so bad, but the transition is stressful indeed. But according to leadership expert Jamie Woolf, you—yes, you—may be doing things to make this harder on yourself and your family than it needs to be.

"Most parents, especially those who work outside the home, dread the start of the school year," says Woolf, author of Mom-in-Chief: How Wisdom from the Workplace Can Save Your Family from Chaos (Wiley, February 2009, ISBN: 978-0-4703813-1-1, $22.95). "And that's understandable. Juggling work, school, and after-school obligations can be tricky, to say the least. But kids look to you as their leader, and your attitude and actions will set the tone for the back-to-school transition. If you set it up the right way, everyone is more likely to fall in line and do what they're supposed to do—maybe even cheerfully."

Woolf, whose book teaches moms how to use "best practices" from the workplace to make family life run more smoothly, says that adopting business leadership strategies can make the difference between a smooth and a chaotic back-to-school transition. Here are a few of her insights and suggestions:

Strategy 1: "Talk up" the new school year. Imagine what it would be like if your boss approached every assignment with sighs, eye-rolls, and a constant barrage of negativity. You wouldn't feel very inspired to do your best work, would you? Of course not! Well, the same principle applies to school. If every other word out of your mouth conveys how much you dread getting up early, supervising homework, running to sports practices and music lessons, and so forth, your child is hardly going to be enthusiastic about it either.

"Always frame the impending school year in a positive light," says Woolf. "When you seem happy and excited about something, chances are good your kids will catch your upbeat mood. They'll be much more likely to cooperate."

Strategy 2: Make sure kids have the right tools for the job. No business leader would expect her employees to get the job done without phones, computers, Blackberries, and other tools of the trade. So make sure your kids are well equipped for the school year. Don't just fly through the annual "school supply" shopping ritual—make it an event. Take the kids along and let them select the perfect book bag, the right notebook colors, and so forth. The same goes for back-to-school wardrobes.

"Just as leaders create buy-in by having employees participate in decision making, you can help your kids get excited about school by letting them equip themselves for the upcoming year," says Woolf. "It's amazing how much more likely an 8-year-old girl is to take ownership of her homework when she gets to carry it around in a Hannah Montana backpack!"

Strategy 3: Enlist the whole family in setting big picture goals. Exemplary business leaders know that when we don't set goals, we're susceptible to enervating detours that take us away from where we want to go. Why is goal setting so important for business leaders and parents alike? Because, says Woolf, the very act of articulating a goal and committing to it focuses our attention on the bigger meaning and inspires us to not lose our motivation over those niggling details. The clearer your mental picture of your desired outcomes, the more likely you are to behave in a way that supports your goals.

"Talk to family members about their hopes and concerns about the upcoming school year," advises Woolf. "What is your and your child's picture of an ideal school year? What about your spouse's? And last but not least, what about your own goals? Help everyone figure out what they want to achieve this year, and they'll have an inspiring vision to work toward."

Strategy 4: Chart out the specifics. If a business leader announces to his staff, "We're going to have the best year ever," that's all well and good but how will this occur? Just like when you declare your New Year's resolution—I'm going to get physically fit—you know what happens: You go gangbusters at the gym for a couple weeks and then it's back to your old sedentary habits. The secret is to articulate specific, measurable action plans:  Together with family members, come up with concrete plans for sharing chores, doing homework, and having fun throughout the school year.

"If you say, 'Everyone does homework from 4:00 to 5:30, then we do chores and prepare dinner together, and then we'll go to the park or play outside until bedtime,' well, that's a lot different from making some vague statement like 'Homework comes first,'" explains Woolf. "Specificity is the key."

Strategy 5: Rally the troops. Behind every successful business project, there is a team with the right abilities and a common goal. Raising a child takes more than a few stalwart villagers. Write down lists of people who can help with carpooling; this will lighten your driving load and your carbon footprint. Share household chores with your children; this will teach responsibility and alleviate some of your burden. In fact, if a task makes you cranky, get rid of it altogether if you can, advises Woolf.

"If you hate making lunches every morning, for example, delegate this chore to your kids," she suggests. "Don't fall into the 'Super Mom' trap of trying to do too much yourself. It only makes you resentful and creates tension around the whole issue of school."

Strategy 6: Identify potential challenges and create your plan of attack. The best businesses are keenly aware of the obstacles they may encounter and have plans to address them. Instead of losing sleep, make a list of the challenges you anticipate facing this school year. Let's say you have three kids at three different afterschool programs, each with the same pick-up time. Instead of wringing your hands over the impossibility of it all, go back to strategy four to convene your support team. And sometimes, the biggest obstacle you have to overcome is not one of logistics, but of attitude.

"One mom told me she dreaded the math homework because her son, who is worried about his first year of algebra, 'is terrible at math, just like me,'" relates Woolf. "But all that does is reinforce the notion that success requires inborn abilities. Wouldn't it be better to convey the message that success comes from practice, hard work, and a readiness to persevere after failure? Instead of buying into your child's negative mindset, say, 'Math doesn't come easily for anyone. It takes a lot of hard work and practice.' Remember that optimism is contagious...and if need be, you can always hire a tutor!"